The existence of life is a part of a bargain day in and day out; we are engaging in any negotiation.
We participate in many arbitrations with self, partners, kids, neighbor, boss, employees, frequently in prayers.
There are significant aspects, Bargaining in a Relationship, with your self and everything else.Although a process of bargaining is a discussion aimed at reaching an agreement, there is a sense of tug of war to pull most of out in favor.
It is like pushing the other side as far as possible, without insulting them.
Negotiating with self.
This tactic is the grand measure of decision making and therefore, success.
If this tactic executed appropriately, decision making in any problematic situation could be comfortable and in a constructive direction.
I use three essential tools for this tactic, a blank paper, a pen, and a well-rested brain. When encounter any significant difficult situation where decision making in either direction is critical but cannot decide because of overwhelming emotions or equivocal outcome in both directions. In those occasions, I choose a quite early morning, where I must have slept, well rested, and influential with alcohol or anything else. I make sure that I am unbiased.
I start writing the pros and cons of a particular situation on hand and pretend to be either of the reality and try to feel what it would be after deciding on the short-term and long-term. After considering carefully, usually, land on the most logical decision that is the optimum fit for current resources at hand.
The arguments with myself have turned out to be extremely productive and the best guidance for my future. I practiced this often with the real situation at hand and hypothetical situation.
This tactic, in fact, helps to negotiate everywhere else.
Bargaining in Relationship.
Negotiation in a relationship can be in many aspects, starting from day to day activity, household work, child care, and even in intimate life.
All these negotiations have the tag of endurance and sustainability rather than pulling the rope in self-favor. The essence of love and care about the relationship come with losing side in a tug of war in the bargain.
In fact, keeping that attitude leads to the win-win situation in the relation and the entire family. Bargaining, once in a while, can ignite communication with the partner if executed in a tone of the discussion; otherwise, it could go downhill if arguments and its occurrence rate increase.
It’s like love and care become the currency, and neither of the partners should assume that has a lot more power to bargain with it than they do. It can be dangerous if either of the partners in a relationship considers that significant other loves me so much that I can push hard.
Dealing everywhere else.
This type of bargaining is a real tug of war. I always want to pull it out in my favor with as much possible strength. This applies to health, workplace, maintaining finance buying anything from as big a dream home to be as small as a tin of soda.
The art of engaging in any and all negotiation often labeled with judgmental tones. Some take bargain as a skill of thrill and others would refrain from bargaining, rather a fear of being judged.
Nowadays, the most common negotiation is in grocery shopping. One major grocery store is matching the price with the other stores’ lowered cost of the product. Families spend enormous time making lists and matching products, clipping advertised price and getting ready for grocery shopping on the next day. If bargain hunting is done carefully, without being emotional and with proper math, it could be worthwhile, other times it is just waste of time and unnecessary sense of short-term money saving and long-term loss of time and money.
The art of negotiation at the workplace is the real skill set. It is like sailing through rough water. If the skill set works proper, one can end up with a cozy and lucrative career deal compare to colleagues.
There are few principles to consider to make a successful negotiation.
Control emotions:
Whoever shows emotions like anger, annoyance, fumbling first, loses half of the negotiation. Maintaining composure, you can also earn respect and trust of your interlocutor. Avoid answering when your emotions take over instead ask time to respond.
Listen, Ask, Note and Learn:
Negotiation is not about who triumph the other with the power of talk and weighty words. It is all about who understand the situation on hand very well.
Assessing the proper gauge of depth can lead to a better question and the upper hand in the negotiation. Posing a series of leading questions, getting to the bottom of the matter and seizing the paradoxes in your interlocutor’s arguments, you can discover how they honestly feel and what their lowest fundamentals are.
Interject opponents’ personality: This tactic gives the real depth of the situation and opens up an avenue for superior and unexplored territories of negotiation. For example, One of my employers was not open negotiating salary, but he agreed to longer vacation days as, he, and the company actively encourage vacation and employee mindfulness.
Walk a few steps in compromising:
While doing the bargaining, it is essential to figure out how far negotiation is feasible and what demands are not reasonable. In the process, one should propose the principle of compromise on both the ends of the table.
After all, practice and practice master the skill, and better at the craft means success is imminent. Have happy bargaining!
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